On June 23rd, 2019, Tyler Perry – the illustrious producer, director, actor, and humanitarian – received the Ultimate Icon BET Award. His acceptance speech was compelling, one of the best speeches I have ever heard. Everything he said was powerful, especially about black women.

“[I want] black women to know you’re worthy, you’re special, you’re powerful, you’re amazing,” Perry explained.

He shared a story about when he was five years old, how he would go to the projects every Friday night with his mother as she played cards with her girlfriends.

“These women didn’t have more than a 12th-grade education, but they were smart black women, powerful black women. They had great stories to tell”.

In my opinion, some people get so tied up on education. I’m not saying it doesn’t have any value, but there is something that only life experience teaches you.

Women are the most powerful influence in this world. We are the most powerful creatures on the face of this earth. No disrespect to men, but if you sit down and think about the things women have been through, what the world places on our shoulders, what is expected of us, and how we do it all, God created us fearfully and wonderfully.

We have babies. We create nations. We raise nations. We are more powerful than we think, and it’s time for you to reach inside yourself and discover the real you. Live your life on your terms. Also, make sure God is the head of your life.

What deeply spoke to me was what Perry said about building a table.

“It’s all about trying to help somebody cross. While everybody else is fighting for a seat at the table, talking about, ‘Oscars is so white, Oscars is so white,’ I said, ‘Y’all go ahead and do that.’ While you’re fighting for a seat at the table, I’ll be down in Atlanta building my own. Because what I know for sure is that if I could just build this table, God will prepare it for me in the presence of mine enemies.”

That was powerful because some of us have been waiting for a seat, for someone to invite us to the table. Why not create your own table? There are so many amazing women in this world. Matter of fact, there are billions of people in this world, that one can collaborate with. Find amazing women who have the same likes and interest. Collaborate and build a table together.

No one said it’s going to be easy. You have people who are close to you who don’t want you to be successful, who don’t want you to be happy. They want you to be sad and miserable because misery loves company. Sometimes you have to push those people aside. My mother used to tell me that sometimes you have to treat people with a long-handled spoon, and even though they might be your family, friends, or significant other, it doesn’t matter.

Don’t stand, waiting for a table, like someone does in a restaurant. Girl, create the most powerful table in the world! Tyler Perry did it. If you are not familiar with his story, I’d definitely recommend reading up on it. Some highlights – he grew up watching his father beat his mother, in a neighborhood with pimps and prostitutes, and afterward lived in a car because he was homeless

Stop waiting for permission to go after your dreams. Stop waiting for somebody telling you it’s okay. Stop waiting for something to happen. You have to make things happen. You are the most amazing, phenomenal woman God has created. It’s time to walk into your greatness. Stop hiding in the shadows, sitting on the sidelines, or on a couch. Please say, I am going to build my table today. Reach out to other women. Research, pray, and do it, and then watch who wants to come and sit at your table.


This feature was submitted by Cheryl Peavy


Cheryl Peavy is a best-selling co-author of several books, author of the eBook titled, Take All the Time You Need, and has compiled a book collaboration titled The Diary of a People Pleaser. As a speaker and transformation technician, Cheryl’s passion is to help women from diverse backgrounds, who are faced with life-traumatic situations, to heal from within. She has created a social media movement branded as She Is You I Am You, helping women see themselves through God’s eyes and not the world’s. She is a mother and contributing writer for Miz CEO Entrepreneurial Magazine and Thrive Global.


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