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I was at a younger age than I am now when I started dating men that were significantly older than me. By significant, I mean an age gap greater than six years. This is not to say that I am opposed to dating men the same age as me or younger.

As a woman emerging into her mid-twenties, I am seeking a serious relationship. After going on several dates and realizing that the conversations were great, I realized that meeting someone with the same goals as I have set for myself meant that I would be dating out of my “age bracket” for the most part. So, most of the men that I find myself going on dates with are usually eight to ten years older than me. This could be an intimidating idea to some women but I assure you it is no different than dating someone closer in age to you. For the women that are contemplating getting coffee with the guy that’s ten years her senior, I say go for it. You never know what the conversation or the coffee will lead to.

With that being said, I am a firm believer in saying yes to going on dates regardless. However, there is a stigma that comes with being a woman with a significantly older male partner. We’re human. We all have passed judgement on people without getting to know them first. We all make assumptions about people even though we have no evidence that proves to be factual.

People will ask you if you have “daddy issues” or that the guy you’re with only wants you because he thinks you’re naïve enough to fall for his games.I have even been told that men who date women significantly younger than them only do it because they cannot find women that want to date them that are the same age as them.God forbid you actually be attracted to the man or woman.

You are going to have to do some serious soul searching and decide for yourself if that’s something you can handle. People are going to comment on your dating choices. I assure you.But if a man wants to “just have sex” with you that’s what he’s going to do, regardless off his age. Whether he’s the same age as you or 10 years older, if he’s only interested in your body and sleeping with you then that’s all that’s going to happen. Ever. So stay away from people like that if that’s not all you’re looking for.

What I have learned is that dating older men has resulted in stimulating conversations, learning life lessons and gaining wisdom, mutual respect, honesty, and patience. There’s nothing wrong with dating men older than you or even the same age. It’s all about what you’re seeking when you’re going on the dating scene. I know a lot of women who turn men down simply because of the age gap and I think they are missing out on a potential partner.Communication is not an issue with anyone that you want to be with. You can have things in common with someone and not even know it. So next time, say yes to someone that you normally wouldn’t have said yes to and see where it goes!