I read that Steve Harvey suggested writing at least 400 goals down that you want to accomplish before you die. That seemed easy enough, so I sat down and attempted to scribe my list.
And then it hit me. I could barely jot down 20, “How in the heck was I going to get to 400?” I thought.
I pondered for a second in my living room. I had so many goals I was supposed to accomplish by the time I hit my latter twenties. I wanted to travel the world, meet R&B sensation Brandy, write a best-selling novel etc. However, after taking inventory, I realized I’ve done very little if anything on my to-do list.
“Why aren’t you doing what you love?” I’ve asked myself over and over.
After shuffling through self-doubt, procrastination and a plethora of excuses, I finally came to the realization that my life was being dominated by fear.
I could barely muster the courage to even write down certain goals out of fear that I would never be able to accomplish them anyway.
However after years of dissatisfaction, I made the choice that fear would no longer steer the path of my life and obscure my thoughts. I decided that I’d unlearn negative self-talk and replace it with only positive reinforcements.
It took me some time to finally see the bigger picture. If you’re struggling with fear, here are three signs to help you recognize it sooner than I did and begin moving on to live a more fulfilling life.
You are indecisive
You may think your chronic indecisiveness is harmless, but it can actually be a symptom of fear. When you’re worried about making a decision, it may appear that avoiding choosing a path is a simple remedy, but in reality it’s not.
In fact, from personal experience, not trusting yourself to make the right decision in the fact of a challenge only hinders growth and leaves you feeling unfulfilled. Besides, not making a decision is still a decision so take a leap of faith and trust your instincts.
You’re in your Comfort Zone
Are you comfortable? Do you feel like life is challenging you? If your answers are no, then you might be like I was a few years back, standing on the sideline watching everyone else live their lives.
Fear encourages us to remain stagnant. Do what we’ve always done and never challenge the status quo, but where’s the fun in that?
You may worry about what’s on the other side of comfort as I did, but what I realized is worrying doesn’t prevent life from challenging us; it merely prevents us from learning from those challenges and reaching our greatest potential.
You See the Glass as Half-Empty (All the Time)
Yes, things go wrong all of the time, but there are just as many times when things have gone right. If you find yourself only focusing on scenarios where everything goes completely array, it may be time to for some self-evaluation to find the source of your fear.