Healthy female friendships bring out the best in us, make life worth living and should be handled with the most delicate of care.
But the harsh reality is, not every woman we spend time with deserves our loyalty or time. In fact, as we get older, we come to realize that not all of our BFFs are meant to continue with us throughout our journey into adulthood. Though this may be a hard pill to swallow, it is vital to be able to detect when a relationship with a friend has turned sour and no longer serves us.
So how can you really know if a relationship is toxic or not? Truth is, you maybe already aware, but if you’re searching for the final clue to detect whether your bestie is more frenemy then friend, here are five warning signs that may empower you to make the decision to sever ties and move on with your life.
- Your efforts are consistently unmatched
Every once in a while, the hustle and bustle of life will sometimes get the best of all us, making keeping in touch with the ones we love difficult, but let’s be honest—people make time for what they care about.
Effort is directly correlated to interest. If you notice that you only see your friend when you call or visit them, it may be time to reevaluate that relationship.
- Your intuition is sending red flags
We must note that every friendship is a choice, so why do so many of us choose to stay in dysfunctional relationships when deep down inside we know these relationships are destroying us emotionally and spiritually?
So often we tend to question our own internal monitors, but if there’s a nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach telling you that he/she has no good intentions for you, pay attention to it.
- You’re intentionally not yourself around them
Healthy relationships inspire authenticity. When you’re surrounded by a friend who genuinely cares about your wellbeing, the essence of who you are is not only enough, but is valued and appreciated.
In a toxic relationship, however you may be made to feel that you cannot fully expose who you truly are out of fear of ridicule or judgement.
- Distance feels better
Are you intentionally ignoring calls, texts and overall avoiding contact with a friend? Does chewing glass sound more appealing than spending an afternoon with Mrs. Negative Nancy? If so, you may be actually avoiding experiencing negative emotions associated with being around your so-called “friend,” including unsolicited criticism and jealousy.