Many times as women we are taught that if we want to pursue a successful career outside the home we can’t have a family. However, as we know, times have changed and women, women with family, are doing more and more outside the home. Do we still have people who believe it can’t be done? Yes. However, we have plenty of examples of women who are succeeding at both entrepreneurship and with raising a family. Therefore, the old thought process is out the window and the new is in full effect. Women are stronger than ever. We stand at the head of the table in the boardroom and are still able to support our husbands and be there for our children.
-Does it make you less of a mother or wife to pursue your dreams?
No ma’am. Go out and pursue your dreams with confidence and pride. As women we are our children protectors. We want nothing more than for them to achieve excellence in life, while we work to build a legacy they can take over when they grow up. If you’re an empty nester, staying focused on life and business allows you to better position yourself to assist your children with their dreams as well.
Now as far as being a wife, hopefully, you sat down with your husband and explained your heart’s desires and what you need from him in order to pursue your dreams. However, I know when we married we became one. However, within that one there are two individuals, and we can’t forget ourselves. Becoming a wife and starting a family does not mean giving up your dreams. They may get put on hold or take longer to achieve, but never give up on them. In a perfect world a discussion is had prior to marriage, but often we don’t find our niche or gift until after marriage, so discussion is needed during the marriage. Communication is key and in order to receive the support from your husband, you must communicate to him what you need from him or how he can help you. Remember he loves you and although he may not understand what you’re trying to do, he will support you nonetheless.
However, there are cases where the husband doesn’t believe in the plan/dream. But once you start working, hopefully, he’ll start seeing the fruits of your labor, and hopefully, he will get on board and often become your biggest cheerleader. Remember, everyone doesn’t see your vision so it might take him a little time to understand. Marriage is a partnership and in a partnership, you want to see each person become the best person they can be. I do know some relationships are not like this but don’t give up your dreams, just work to compromise, because you can have it all.
-What happens when your husband doesn’t support you?
In my personal opinion don’t focus on their support. Focus on how to explain to him your dreams and how what you’re doing is going to benefit the family as well. Take time to explain to him what it is that you do, maybe give a quick presentation so he can understand your vision and mission. Make sure to include him in the presentation so he can understand how he fits in the equation. Allowing your husband to feel like they’re a part of your dream and not an outsider will help get him on board to support you in full.
If he is upset that your business is taking too much time from him, remember you know and see your vision because the vision was given to you not him. He doesn’t understand why you’re spending more money than you have coming in right now. For the most part, this isn’t a relationship deal breaker just a difference of opinions. Therefore, you still need to listen to his concerns. Also, provide compromises that work for both of you and continue working on your plan. Never give up just prove to him the rewards once the money starts flowing into your business. Your husband will start to come around when he sees the fruits of labor from your hard work. It will work out. Don’t throw in the towel on your business or your relationship. Just design a plan that works for all parties involved and in the end, everyone is happy.
I am not saying it will be easy, but you can have it all. Don’t allow anyone to tell you different. Anything worth having is worth working hard to obtain and keep.
This feature was submitted by Latricia N. Taylor
Latricia N. Taylor was born and raised in Syracuse, NY and currently resides in Jacksonville FL. She is the Co-Founder/CEO of the Chasity Taylor Foundation and author of the book A Mother’s Love / A Mother’s Pain. Latricia is a business consultant with a mission to assist women in finding their confidence after a tragic loss. She strives to assist those aspiring to tell their story and become an author or start a nonprofit. She has 20+ years experience in business & health insurance, and 5+ years in the legal field as well.
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