Who says you have to talk on the phone or entertain several dates before meeting the love of your life? Melanie Nicole and Damond Bowers are proof that you can meet your soulmate anywhere…the library, a museum, the grocery store or even the fitness center. Let’s journey with the happily engaged couple to see how their love story unfolds.
Melanie where did you meet your fiancé?
We met at the gym. My mom actually met him first. We both were working out and he approached my mom and asked her if she needed help with the exercise machines. My mom instantly took a major liking to him and then waved me down from the other side of the gym to meet him.
What initially attracted you to him and what was the most compelling factor?
I was attracted to his giving and loving heart. The way he unselfishly gives is a true reflection of God. Also, the way he loves his mom. He picked her up from work every single day for years. I believe a man that treats his mother like a queen will treat his wife like one as well.
Was it love at first sight?
Yes. It was love at first sight for the both of us. You can fall in love with a song upon first hearing it, a painting upon first viewing it, a movie upon first seeing it, and a person upon first meeting them. It’s not just about looks, because we don’t fall head over heels in love with every attractive person who walks by. It’s an overall aura or demeanor where you instantly know without a doubt that this person is for you.
Where was your first date?
Our first date was at the movies. I remember exactly what he was wearing and exactly what he smelled like. Ha! I remember he was rushing and he left his wallet leaving me to pay for the movie. To this day he said he honestly forgot his wallet. I think he was testing me to see what type of woman I was. Apparently I passed.
Where did he propose?
Initially, he planned a beautiful Italian dinner with both of our moms. My mother became sick, however and went into the hospital. I was told he was in a panic because he had to change his plans. He walked around for a week with the ring in his pocket as he was trying to plan another proposal, but nothing was panning out in his favor. He tried to wait until my mother was released from the hospital but he just couldn’t wait. He took me out to dinner with my niece and his mother and proposed at the dinner table. He got on one knee and he was so nervous until he forgot to pull the ring out and put it on my finger. Right after he proposed, ten of our closest friends and family came to celebrate. It was perfect.
What have you learned about yourself since being with your fiancé?
I learned that being in love isn’t supposed to hurt and that all men are not the same. I learned that being my natural organic self is enough.
What lesson on love did you have to learn in a short amount of time?
That a man should take care of you not just materialistically, but take care of your soul, your heart, your well-being and your everything.
Do you feel this is your soul mate?
Yes. “A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise.”— Richard Bac
What are you most looking forward to about becoming a wife?
Planning and raising a family with the love of my life.
How has this relationship made you a better woman?
Where should I start? I wouldn’t be “The PR Guru” if it weren’t for him. He is my biggest supporter and my number one fan. He is a true gift from GOD and a testament of what a husband should be. He loves strong, provides, respects and treats me like a queen. He has inspired me to be a better person. He has pushed me in my career, my education, my beliefs, culture, and my values. He inspires me to try things I always said I wouldn’t. To read books I never thought I’d like, to go to places I never wanted to visit and to eat food I always denounced. Sometimes we need a person running alongside of us telling us we can keep going and that we can cross that finish line. He is that person!
What’s your wedding theme and where will you honeymoon?
We are set to become husband and wife on September 11, 2016. Our wedding theme is a beautiful old fashion love story. We’re getting married at the Grosse Pointe, Michigan War Memorial. Our colors are “blush and bashful” (The movie Steel Magnolias) and navy blue. Our honeymoon is planned in Venice, Italy and Santorini, Greece.