Changing your life for the better is a surefire way to know you are heading in the right direction. Many women hide behind the mask of hurt and pain from life’s trauma and choose to keep them hidden and push through without seeking the proper help and guidance. While doing more harm than good many women make the choice to live in their situation rather than grow into greatness. For D.Renee Smith aka the “The Transformation Specialist” and native of Ocala, Fl, she decided to take her life back and she did just that. She says; “I had to be able to grow and reach other women who were going through the same obstacles as I had endured. Healing is powerful and necessary because experiencing trauma at an early age is very scaring.” D. Renee is a licensed Therapist and certified Life Coach for 15 years. Taking control of her life has opened up a gateway for healing and a heart to help others experience the same.
Having Overcame major obstacles since the age of three of being molested by her Grandmothers husband and experiencing unexplainable dreams, D. Smith turned to a pen and paper to begin writing her story in the effort heal personally, “I wanted to find out what it was about me that needed healing. I wasn’t being satisfied in relationships, I didn’t have any self-esteem, I felt unloved, I was unhappy and just going through the motions of life until I decided enough was enough. It was time to write about it and read about it and heal from it.” The Morris Brown graduate published her book titled,“Transformation; The Journey Back to Me,” which is help guide for women who have lost themselves through the traumas of life. Its complete with exercises to help women re-discover their true self and learn to love who you are again. Releasing this book has led D. Smith to be more open about her story and help other women do the same.
- Renee Smith decided to step out on faith upon and she founded her life coaching business; “ Transformational Living Coaching and Consulting” to be able to help other women with low self-esteem and inspire women to go back to school, following their dreams, open their own businesses and be able to overcome the feeling of not feeling loved and worthy. She says; “I want to help women to increase their self-esteem and get to a happy place. So many women are choosing to be unhappy because of their past and its time to transform.”
What was your journey like to self-discovery?
My journey has been interesting. I was molested at three years old. I struggled with self-esteem as a result of the molestation. I didn’t feel loved. I grew up in a single parent household. My mother and father had me when they were 15 and 16 years old. So as a result of them having me so young, my mom became the black sheep of her family. A lot of the times I was with my grandmother and her husband was the man that molested me. My dad did not find out about the molestation until I was 30 years old. I had a dream when I was 12 years old and I remember the house that I lived in and I could I could see this man pulling a mattress into a bathroom, but I shook the dream off. One summer I was in route to my grandmother’s house and my mom said, “You need to watch out for him (The husband”, and she told me how when I was three, she found evidence of molestation in my underwear and that I had contracted a curable sexually transmitted disease. As a result of all of these factors, I struggled with low self-esteem. My mom was always working, and I was left to take care of my siblings. I used sports and dance to mask what I was really feeling. As I got older, I noticed that I was a people pleasing but I wasn’t pleasing myself and I really had to find myself. I had to crash and get tired of being sick and tired. I stopped dating, I became celibate for 2 ½ years and I had to reconnect with my values and morals. The process led me to love me more.
Writing a book and having to relive some of the situations that you went through, how were you able to effectively heal and re-discover yourself through the process?
DS: It was really rough. I started writing the book back in 2015 and I put it down because this was my life and I was always a private person. Anyone who was around me would never know that I had gone through those struggles for all those years. Not even friends or family. I was the type of person who was always smiling, fake it until you make and have my mask on. You would never know anything until I opened up. So being vulnerable and open to people and allowing people to be into my space, to know these personal things about me was really hard to do then. At the early part of last year, God had gotten me into a space where he said, “It’s time to pick it back up,” after 2 ½ years.
What do you want people to take away from your book?
The book in itself is just a guide to help people start loving themselves. To teach people that you don’t need validation from friends, family, relationships as long as you have all of those things within yourself, you can go out and you can do anything. This book was designed to help you be yourself and yes you will relive things from the past but there is no healing without pain. The book is a tool used to help support my vision and purpose that I have to help women Overcome and Elevate in spite of the circumstance from which they come from.
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