You may know him as Quincy from Tyler Perry’s hit series, “Have & Have Nots.” But what you may not know about him is that he has overcome some of life’s biggest obstacles. Whether you need advice in your love life or you want a man’s point of view on topics, Medina has got you covered!
In our NEW series, #AskMedina, he will answer any questions you may have about self-love and relationships in today’s world.
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I recently moved away and my boyfriend and I decided to try a long distance relationship. We just have not been able to find time for one another, how can we improve? He is the love of my life and I don’t want to lose him.
Long distance relationships are tough, not impossible, but definitely tough. Part of being in a relationship is the intimacy of being in close proximity of one another. You always hear stories of people making it work somehow but ultimately, I believe it comes down to one thing. Sacrifice. Part of loving someone is being willing to sacrifice for the greater good. I don’t know what stage of life you guys are at but if this is the love of your life, what does that matter? You guys at some point are going to have to be a little more irrational. A job can never bring you love. I’m not saying quit your job but I am saying part of your sacrifice is taking two steps back so you can take eight steps forward. You will eventually grow apart if the two of you don’t sacrifice. Both of you have to be in the same city, otherwise, it won’t work. If both of you are not willing or able to, then I would suggest always focusing on yourself right now and being grateful for your new job is the best thing. All good things must come to an end, but great things can always begin again. Hopefully, the distance will help give you clarity to make an absolute decision. Whatever you decide, know this. Nothing is impossible. You can make it work, but you have to decide what your willing to give up and be cool with it if doesn’t go your way. That’s love. Real love doesn’t calculate the risk.
Time seems so limited now a days, how can I find the time to spend with my man, my kids, my friends, my family, and myself?
You are correct. There is not enough time in the day. So, I recommend you get good at disappointing people. Here’s what I mean. It is essential for you to make some time for yourself first. Everything else comes after. People may be disappointed with you, but if they love you they will eventually understand. This is how you teach people to love you. It’s not by what you do for people. It’s by how you value yourself. If you don’t make time for yourself, you will corrupt everything around you. You will feed the ones you love the stress and frustration of you being second or third in your own life. Eventually those people won’t want to be around you as much. This will make you bitter. If you’re in a relationship your man is important, your children are important, and so is your family. People feed off energy. If mama’s not happy, no ones happy. So, the priority is you. Trying to make everyone happy all the time is one of life’s biggest tricks. It will make people hate you. Self Love and time for yourself will show everyone around you that you value yourself and will teach them to value whatever time anyone gets to spend with you. Remember, it’s not the quantity, its the quality of time.
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