Girl I know it’s been a while your BOF (Battery operated friend) has gotten enough play and now you are ready to feel the real thing? But, let me guess you’re dating this guy only for a short time and you’re wondering when you should give the cookie or thinking to yourself does he even deserve the cookie?  In, giving the cookie it is important to set boundaries. Give yourself time to really decipher what the new guy in your life is looking for and what you expect so there are no expectations and broken hearts. I believe when becoming intimate with your new beau there is really no time limit.

However, there are different views from our friend Steve Harvey. His book might ring a bell “Act like a lady, think like a man.” He states you should hold on to the cookie for at least 90 days. When you feel ready and feel mentally and physically prepared to receive whatever comes out of that experience that’s when it should happen. It should never happen when there’s pressure from the beau, and when you are unsure you always want to make sure of your decision to become intimate. In short, it’s hard to tell whether men and women are truly incapable of having completely “casual” sex.

For each gender, the stakes are slightly different. However, the release of hormones on both sides during sex triggers emotional attachment on a certain level. So, that is why it is important to make sure that you are ready to take that chance. Here are some ways to know you’re ready to take it to the next level.

Totally smitten– Heart races whenever he comes near you, just want to be around them.

Feeling the heart rush– You feel the rush when he touches you, talks to you and girl waterfalls.

Mental connection– You two connect on a mental and spiritual note.

Physical attraction-Physically attracted to your boo and just can’t keep your hands off him.

The type of man who is deserving of your cookie is one who follows through with plans, never leaves you hanging, comes when he says he is going to come, and calls when he is running late. So, remember only indulge when ready and beau is deserving and as always safe fun!

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