Spicy focuses on encouraging individuals and couples to unlock the power of their passion in order to attract their purpose-mate and find love. She has developed dynamic relationship curriculums for her clients that include well-known celebrities to everyday people.

Who is Spicy Mari outside of your bio?

Spicy Mari is a boss, a wife, a mother and a Blaxican queen. I am a proud multicultural leader who practices what I preach. I believe that closed mouths don’t get fed so I empower my friends, family, and clients by reminding them to “ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and the door will be opened.”

No matter what it is, career, love, health goals or just changing a wrong order on the dinner menu at a restaurant, go after what you want!


Can you explain the idea of New Year = New Love?

I always say New Year, New Boo. What that means is it’s a new chapter in your life to explore who you are, what you want, and what you have to offer. Through this self-discovery and exploration, you can grow and walk more in your purpose. The goal is to become more in alignment with your purpose-mate. The partner who will help you achieve your life’s mission. The new year is an opportunity to take risks, step outside of your comfort zone and make a love match! If there is any fear around this, The Spicy Life is here to help.


What is The Spicy Life and can you talk more about what is being offered?

The Spicy Life Inc. is a Relationship Consulting Firm that was formed for the purpose of strengthening your interpersonal experiences. We realized that many people don’t have a strong sense of how to form healthy relationships in this new digital era. Our motto is Transform Perspectives and Fuel Connections. This means continuously evolving in the way we approach relationships in order to best create them.

Our method is based on the S.P.I.C.Y. Fundamentals, which stand for Self, Passion, Intimacy, Communication, and learning to say “Yes.” We believe that these are the key components to forming and maintaining healthy and fulfilling relationships. We have taken these fundamental concepts and applied them to modern-day interactions.

Our services include:

  • The Spicy Life Program
  • Couples Coaching
  • Your Purpose-Mate Awaits

All of our services offer a transformational learning experience based on the S.P.I.C.Y. fundamentals. In this program we will focus on the S.P.I.C.Y. Method, how we attract, interact, engage, convert and retain your purpose-mate. The psychology and emotions that influence human behavior are the key concepts reviewed. Gaining key insight on how to raise your vibration and attract superior mates will empower you with the confidence to gain the desires of your heart. You will be challenged to elevate mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally throughout this learning process. How to conquer your fear of rejection. 1. Build self-esteem and eliminate insecurities 2. Shift limiting beliefs around love and relationships 3. Raise your vibration and become more magnetic 4. Commanding adoration through masculine and feminine energy channels are some of the life-changing goals you will achieve.

With Valentine’s Day up next, what are some of the best gifting ideas for your first holiday gift? 

Do a scavenger hunt for your lover with 5 spicy gifts that represent each love language. You can have your partner discover one gift a day leading to V-Day or do it all on V-Day morning.

Spicy Love Language Gifts for The Ladies

  1. Words of Affirmation: Get a customized puzzle made online (Shutterfly) that has an awesome photo of the both of you and says, “I love you.”
  2. Acts of Service: Have a note that says the maid is booked to come clean the house and the babysitter booked already for V-Day.
  3. Gifts: Have a dress and shoes boxed and bagged for her to wear for a surprise date night
  4. Quality Time: Have a manifestation journal or calendar for her with the location of where you both are going on Feb 14th, 2023
  5. Touch: A massage gift card, manicure or pedicure appointment, or a sex toy (I like the rose from a female black owned toy store)

Spicy Love Language Gifts for The Fellas

  1. Words of Affirmation: Get a customized puzzle made online (Shutterfly) that has an awesome photo of the both of you and says, “I love you.”
  2. Acts of Service: Have a note that says the maid is booked to come clean the house and the babysitter booked already for V-Day.
  3. Gifts: Have a shirt, pants and shoes boxed and bagged for him to wear for a surprise date night. My husband would want some Jordans though so start shopping asap.
  4. Quality Time: Have a pair of tickets to a sporting event that he would love to go to.
  5. Touch: Crystal Drinking Glasses with a Decanter full of his favorite whisky that you will toast to then pour on each other’s bodies and drink off.


What do you hope our readers gain from this interview? 

V-Day isn’t just about being celebrated by your partner. It’s also about showing up for them, male or female they need acknowledgment as well.


What are you looking forward to most in 2023?

I’m looking forward to my annual Valentine’s Day Event. “2 Brushes 1 Canvas” A Spicy Sip & Paint for Mates to work as a team side by side while being led by an instructor down a colorful journey of love. Meanwhile, I will be providing Spicy Tips to enhance intimacy and passion back into your love life.

Photo Credits: Spicy Mari