Learning to put yourself first is an act of self-love.


Life can sometimes be so demanding, leaving you with little to no time for yourself. To make matters worse, people make their way into your life with requests and expectations of their own, expecting you to put them first. It can be overwhelming if you are not paying attention to what’s essential, and that’s your well-being. There are days when I put so many things first that I lose sight of myself, which is unhealthy. When you take time to do what makes you happy, that is the power of loving yourself. Learning to put yourself first is genuinely the first act of love. Finding what is important to you and what makes you happy is also loving yourself. Your peace of mind is everything, and you must do everything you can to ensure you’re rested and healthy.

The other day, I had a few phone calls from loved ones and friends wanting my time. Although it seemed like a great way to escape and have fun, it was just more demands placed on me than I could handle. I had to adjust to learning to say “No” because wanting to please others was taking away from my happiness. You cannot be everything to everyone and nothing to yourself. Self-love is all about putting yourself first—doing what makes you feel good, even if that is resting, reading a book, or working in a garden. It’s your time you make for yourself.

I get it. Only some people will want you to take time out for yourself. However, it is so crucial that you do not make excuses for loving yourself. Haven’t you been there for everyone else? Don’t you think it is time for you to put yourself first? Putting yourself first is not an act of selfishness; no way, but it is an act of love. Stop giving yourself away to everything and everybody. When you put yourself first, you feel good and begin to know what is vital, including who should be in your life.

Learn how to treat yourself to a day of relaxation and rest. Learn how to do things for yourself. Be kind to yourself. You will never be able to make everyone happy, especially when practicing self-love. Anyone who is against you loving yourself should not have a place in your life. Self-love is also about organizing and prioritizing those things that matter the most to you. What is it that makes you happy? What is it that brings you peace of mind in this crazy world?

When you wake up the next morning, the demands of the day before will still be there, along with those who look to you to make their life easy. Whatever you are trying to accomplish, you will not get very far without the power of loving yourself first.


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