Girl, I’m thinking of ways to stay connected with my man but I feel like I’m running out of ideas. Listen, I have been there where I thought to myself how to keep the fire going. I mean keeping the spice works on both ends; however it’s nothing wrong with keeping a few tricks up your sleeves. When keeping things fresh and spicy it keeps the intimacy alive. You always want to make sure you and bae don’t get so caught up in other things that the relationship suffers in the love and date department.

Keeping it spicy doesn’t mean always going out necessarily; it can be sitting home having a picnic in the living room with Netflix and wine. Intimacy is needed in the relationship, regardless of whether it’s a physical intimacy or an emotional intimacy; your relationship will slowly wither and die without it. If you can’t be intimate with your partner, whether physically or emotionally- or both, you cannot expect to having a lasting relationship with your partner. There are five types of intimacy in a relationship and here are some ways to nourish.

Emotional Intimacy-Being emotionally intimate with a partner means that you can talk to them about your innermost thoughts.

Intellectual Intimacy– To deepen your intellectual intimacy, you might share your favorite songs, poems or books.

Physical Intimacy-, Physical intimacy is not the same as sexual intimacy. It’s essentially being affectionate with each other, which can include everything from hugging to holding hands to kissing to cuddling on the couch.

Experiential Intimacy– Couples don’t have to do everything together, but it’s important to share some experiences (without any distractions, such as electronic gadgets. For example, this might include taking a walk, biking, seeing a movie, or even sitting in a garden.

Spiritual Intimacy-Spiritual intimacy is sharing awe-inspiring moments together, this might mean “worshipping as a couple” or “walking hand-in-hand in nature.”

If these five ways of intimacy are practiced then you are already connecting in your relationship so continue to keep it spicy and watch that relationship continue to flourish!

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