What is love?  So many people have different views of Love, and you ask yourself can it be love or lust that I feel.  One thing we know from the good book of life “Our Bible” states from 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is proud. It does not easily anger, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.

If you have to question if your significant other loves you replace love with their name. If it does not match what love represents it is not love it is lust, love never makes you wonder.  Lust is when you experience infatuation; your mind is consumed by thoughts of the other person. You’re thinking not only about the other person but also about how you want to reveal yourself to the other person. While lusting for that person you have an idealized vision of what this person is like, and your vision may or may not be accurate. Let’s follow these steps that let you know your lusting vs. loving. These steps keep you on your toes with how to differentiate the difference between Love and Lust. I promise you will never have to guess again ladies!

Evaluate how secure you feel. Instead of feeling secure, you are thinking more about how to impress the other person. Your focus is on how to get the other person to like you, and you feel nervous because you don’t know how the other person feels.

Analyze the way that you’re thinking about the other person. You think constantly about the way that the person smiles, the way he or she says your name or the way that your partner looks at you. You think obsessively about these details, and you try to decide how the person feels about you based on these somewhat trivial qualities.

Consider your feelings about moving the relationship forward. You want to ask the person to date exclusively, but you’re nervous about what he or she might say. You’re afraid that asking for commitment may frighten the person away. Your feelings aren’t deep enough for love; you’re in the realm of infatuation.

Whether you’re in a relationship already or admiring someone from afar, sorting out your feelings for someone can be a real challenge. While there’s no clear, foolproof way to make the distinction for someone else, you can at least make the distinction clearer for yourself. Follow these steps to know the difference between love, infatuation and lust, and remember to be honest with yourself!

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